Survive and Thrive-Thoughts from an Executive Life and Career Specialist

Get Inspired by Peter Drucker Thought Leader

Irene Rivka Becker — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 01:13:06 -0400

"The World According to Peter Drucker"January 27, 1998

Timeless Wisdom by thought leader, Peter Drucker

Four Challenges to ...

Living, Leading and Succeeding to Purpose in a World of Unreason

Irene Rivka Becker — Thu, 22 May 2008 13:02:34 -0400

Living, Leading and Succeeding to Purpose in a World of Unreason

I have achieved success that most people only dream ...

True Leadership: Engaging the Leader Within

Irene Rivka Becker — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 00:37:08 -0500

In another time, in another period of chaos and conflict, (when the USA was not yet a country, but a ...

Breaking Through the Cement Ceiling

Irene Rivka Becker — Tue, 05 Feb 2008 08:26:49 -0500
Years ago I become the first woman CEO of a steel business. The greatest challenge I faced was not a glass ceiling, but a cement ceiling that I ultimately crashed through!

Stressed?

Irene Rivka Becker — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 11:25:23 -0400
Having a difficult day? Ready to de-stress, re-inspire, re-purpose, re-focus, re-boot and re-charge? Enjoy the following links and article.

In the Valley: Irene's Personal Story

Irene Rivka Becker — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 05:57:57 -0500

In The Valley

The deepest questions, insights, awareness and answers rarely come when we are sitting at the top of ...

Higher Ground

Irene Rivka Becker — Mon, 05 Nov 2007 15:05:15 -0500
Take this moment to celebrate that you are unique, and that you have the power to do more than follow the trend, the flow, the status quo, the road most travelled. YOU can reach higher ground

Food for Thought, Life, Leadership and Success

Irene Rivka Becker — Wed, 31 Oct 2007 05:01:03 -0400
We face a crisis of belief, courage and leadership that often makes ihard to get inspired. Enjoy an inspiring article from our website and some inspiring quotations

The Formula for Success in a World, Workplace and Marketplace of Accelerating Change, Challenge, Competition and Stressors.

Howard — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 15:11:23 -0400
The formula for success is timeless; however, this formula is being threatened by FIVE wolves that hang out in our lives, relationships and behond the water cooler in our workplaces...

Building The DNA Of Happiness and Success by Irene Becker, Chief Success Officer, Just Coach It,

Irene Rivka Becker — Thu, 02 Aug 2007 08:49:01 -0400

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The pain of living and working at a pace that is faster than ever before, the burden of having to make a myriad of decisions before we even step out of bed is REAL. So is the unprecedented speed of change, challenge, competition, transitions, turning points, stumbling blocks and crises that many of us face on an ongoing basis. Can we lessen this burden? Yes, but the only way we can lessen this burden is to change our perspective, our map of the world by learning to win the race with wolves.
What is the race with wolves. The race that even the best and brightest among us are running with 5 wolves: 1. Corporate, business or personal change, discontinuous change or shock. 2. Interpersonal problems and conflicts. 3. Daunting life and work challenges and transitions. 4. Personal stumbling blocks and turning points. 5. Health crises-physical and mental.

Winning the race with wolves, realizing our potential to not only survive but thrive at the frontier of change, or in the face of difficult, frustrating, even painful personal, professional or business transitions, turning points, stumbling blocks and crises is a powerful skill.
A skill I learned in training, through experience, and at the frontier of some very difficult changes, challenge, turning points, stumbling blocks and crises. My my career as CEO of a successful company, and a pretty horrible life event that threatened my life and career were all excellent teachers. Yes, the greatest teacher is often our most difficult battlefield. And, paradoxically, more often than not the greatest opponent we face is our self.
Once our basic survival needs have been met we all share a common need to be loved, appreciated and valued. And, often this primal need to be loved is distorted, minimized or maximized by a basic lack of self confidence or self esteem that can cause us to over-achieve, under-achieve, or stay stuck in relationships or careers that are wrong for us and never allow us to truly feel self love from insight out.
Here are ten simple, but powerful steps to build the DNA of success and happiness in your life and your work:
1. Know and understand what you really want, and use it to build your self confidence and self esteem from inside out. We are socialized to have goals and objectives, and even core beliefs and values that are often not our own. The journey to really HEAR our own voice, and tap into our true purpose, get rid of false core beliefs and replace them with our true core beliefs and values is the road to building true potential, success and happiness.
2. Be the promise manager and CEO of your life. Use every opportunity to model promise management and leadership in your life and your work. Do what you say, come through with the promises you make, do not make a commitment that you cannot fulfill. And, get rid of relationships with toxic people who cannot ever really be trusted, have values that you do not respect, and are perhaps emotionally, physically, sexually or financially abusive.
3. Develop the DNA of sustainable happiness and success. Get coached so that you can not only build but sustain the high emotional intelligence edge (your ability to understand and manage your emotions, understand the emotions of others, and use what you are feeling and thinking to inspire, engage and motivate the best in yourself and others), strengthen the life, leadership and communication strengths that can help you not only move forward but stay there with greater happiness and success.
4. Fail forward. Build your resiliency quotient. Learn to use failures and challenges to build a positive sense of self. That’s right, practice getting out of the comfort zone daily. You are not right all the time, neither is any one else. Yes, while most of us were trained to succeed, reality is that the sheer velocity of change, challenge, competition and stressors makes always succeeding the pixie dust of frustration, workaholism, anxiety, brown out, addictions, ailments and burn out.
5. Take your ego out of the equation, stop personalizing. Focus on building good personal boundaries, developing your ability to stay focused on your true goals and objectives. And, when you feel angry or frustrated ask yourself if your anger and frustration is caused by feeling invalidated by another person or a situation. If the answer is yes, you are a hostage of your ego. Get free.
6. Cultivate humor, optimism, resiliency. Take time each day for a good laugh. Yes, laugh it up. The research is in and it is conclusive, laughter not only connects you with others but it also helps strengthen the immune system and helps you tap into your right brain-your creative, communicative side. Find a way to incorporate humor and laughter in your day.
7. Nurture and build ME time. One of the most important things you can do is find a window of opportunity each day to have ME time. Time that you spend with yourself, cultivating your relationship with YOURSELF. Me time is time when you need to nurture yourself, feel lovable and do something that helps you recharge, reconfigure and reboot your mind, body and soul.
8. Build constructive discontent. What? Your ability to not only stay grounded in the heat of an argument or dispute, but to also feel unpleasant feelings and not be held hostage by them. That’s right you can learn to develop your ability to feel an emotion and not be held hostage by it by learning to step back ride the wave, by becoming the participant observer and letting the emotion pass by just watching and refocusing on your true goals and objectives.
9. Stop reacting and start responding. No matter what happens you have the choice to be the cause or the effect. When you react you are been the effect, when you respond you are being the cause. Developing your ability to respond is a learned skill that grows when you build your EQ/EI edge, and develop critical competencies like constructive discontent.
10. Re-discover, nurture and cultivate your joy factor, your happiness set point. Recapture the child and heart and start to re-discover what really makes you feel happy and fulfillment. Once your survival needs have been met, material acquisitions are terrific but they cannot and will not create sustainable fulfillment. Only you can work to re-discover what your joy factor, your happiness set point is by doing things that will help you nurture and sustain your love of self from inside out.

Following In the Footsteps of Giants by Irene Becker

Irene Rivka Becker — Thu, 12 Jul 2007 07:14:41 -0400

This week, a beloved figure in Toronto, a business mogul, philanthropist, and a forward thinker who changed the landscape of retail business, the urban core, and the entertainment and culture in Canada’s largest city, died at the age of 92.

Ed Mirvish leaves a legacy that is the footstep of a giant. A legacy we can all be proud of because Mr. Mirvish not only achieved great success and prosperity, innovated positive change, infused Toronto with economic, social and cultural vitality; he also retained that powerful spark of humility, humanity, and a love for his fellow man that is clearly the footstep of a giant.

Maybe it is time for those of us who have achieved the prosperity that creates financial freedom, and those who have not, to ask ourselves what kind of foot print we want to leave behind.

The footprint of a giant is not measured by the size of his bank account, nor by the trophies, awards or material accoutrements of success. The footprint of a giant is measured by his or her ability to leave a legacy that continues to touch the hearts and minds of others.

A legacy that speaks of servant leadership, a legacy that reflects the ability to make a positive difference in the world in which we live, and in the lives of the people we lead, love and serve. Building the footprint of a giant is the work of a life time, it cannot be built solely upon our unprecedented access to knowledge, information, technology, or the skills and competencies we have developed. The footprint of a giant is born of the faith, hope, courage, humility and relentless moral strength and timeless values that create the passionate purpose, desire and ability to make a positive different in the lives of others.

Faith gives one the spiritual power that guides our best thoughts and actions. Hope allows us to embrace gratitude and to build resiliency. Courage gives us the ability to live in alignment with our highest values. Humility allows us to realize that life is a gift, and that minimizing the human dignity or potential of another human being does not give us power, rather it makes us powerless to realize the true purpose of our creed.

In a world of increasing chaos, discord, violence and upheaval it is the men and women from the C suite to the warehouse, from the most revered professions to the humblest of occupations who can decide that they want to make their foot print, the foot print of a giant, or to support the giants among us. Both are equally important, both are critical.

We cannot all become the change we seek, but we can be inspired and motivated by the footprints of giants like Ed Mirvish. We can be inspired to help build and sustain the footprints of the visible and less visible giants whose faith, courage, hope, humility, leadership can help us embrace an evolution of self that will take us past what is, so that we can create what can be in our lives, our communities, our workplaces, our society and our world.